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Shining Bee
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Wanting different things from your partner is natural.
The question is how much different; is the difference way too much, and how much of it is insurmountable.
If Henry is internalizing the whole situation, and actually attempting to accept some of it, that's his choice of how to cope with the situation and he might come to term with it, or decide it is way too much and ask himself if breaking is unavoidable, so its at least worth a try, he's just saying he needs time.
You did lie, but then you told the truth, stop beating yourself over it being a natural continuation of anything, it really isn't, you tried to right a wrong and you did, having a relationship while continuing to hide behind a lie would've been much more hurtful in the long run for yourself and having a relation that started with a lie but then was rebuilt on trust is already a step in the right path.
Now Henry knows what this is about, everybody knows what they want, and believing it can or cannot work is completely up to both parties willingness to accept things for what they are and compromising, or deciding if things aren't worth the effort and giving up.
If you still ask yourself the question then you're unsure, and if you're unsure then you're not yet ready to give up, now you could always just enjoy the date the best you can, let Henry come to term with his own choices, eventually time will heal the wounds and he won't be grumpy forever (this is practically impossible) and ask him later if he thinks breaking up is something he'd want, because it's not like your entire marriage was build around your gender, there has been other factors and reasons that led you both to decide it was something you wanted.
This sort of decision isn't something you decide yourself without asking your partner, and maybe find some counseling somewhere.
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